If you are going to successfully disconnect from your ex and your old life, and connect yourself to a happy, radiant new future, you need to establish―and stick to―some ground rules that will keep you from complicating the disconnection process and the practical aspects of your separation.
Ground Rule #1: No Sex with Your Ex!
Sex is not some kind of glue for a broken relationship, and it does not help dissolve bottlenecks in your separation. By going to bed with your ex-partner―or even just kissing and snuggling on the couch together―after the decision to separate has been made, you will not gain any extra influence over his or her actions and choices. Instead, you will introduce confusion and blocks into both of your emotional sub-processes and complicate or delay the entire separation process.